Girl, You are Worth the Chase

Dear Little Girl,

Heed this reminder from a little girl just like you.

I once thought love was easy as one-two-three. Popular culture dictates that if you want a man, you gotta plan. Gone are the days when guys would do everything just to prove to you that you are worth the world to them. Today, all it takes is a simple "I luv u ;)" over chat or text for them to get your sweet "Yes!"

Sad to say, some boys today take the worth of girls for granted. They think they can have us easily or they can juggle two or more of us at the same time.

It's partly our fault.

Some girls are contented with allowing boys to go through the easy way. Of course, how can you say no when your crush finally notices you? How can you deny  love's knock on the door, even if he's not just knocking at yours? We allow guys to enter our lives so easily. We think that if we make things hard, the boy we like will go away and see another girl. And we don't want that.

But we should because girl, you are worth it.

As David wrote on Psalm 139, we are fearfully and wonderfully made. The Lord made the intricate parts of our bodies and emotions. It's enough to prove that girl, you are no ordinary piece of work. You are a wonderful masterpiece.

With that in mind, isn't it only right for a guy to pursue you the right way?

Don't be like me. I had to learn the hard way. But despite the pain, I realized that in the realm of love, the right guy shouldn't be a playboy or the first boy who says "I love you!" (Side note: fiction makes playboys look cool. THEY ARE NOT. In fact, they're digusting). The right man isn't one who just stays for the little blunders but doesn't know how to handle storms. He's not one who stays sweet now and later looks for love in others.

No.

The right man is like David-- he is a man after God's own heart. If his perspective is right, expect him to chase after you the way God intended him to.

In my opinion, the right guy won't settle for the easy path. He understands your worth because he understands his place in the hands of the Lord. He will respect you, your body, and your demands. He takes the Scripture seriously so you can be confident that he will take you seriously. The right man will not look at other women for comfort. He will prove to you that you are enough.

Girl, never think that you're not worth the chase. If a man really loves you, he will do what is right. Even if things don't seem to agree his way, he will seek the Lord and he will be ready to face whatever comes his way (e.g. strict parents, strict friends, strict dgroup leader).

Don't be afraid to raise your standards. Never stoop down to their level just to get their attention. If a guy easily gives up, then he is not worth it. But worry not, be confident that the Lord has you. Just be sure to obey His word and the people around you.

When a guy works hard for you, he will definitely value you more. Because he poured all blood, tears, and sweat, it's enough proof that he really wants to win you over.

Little girl, believe me when I say you are worth the chase. Don't be rash. Don't be like me. Wait for the Lord and he will give you a Shepherd David who lead you closer to God and not to him.

You'll see.

Love,

Another Little Girl