Psalm 51: The Wake Up Call

For the choir director: A psalm of David, regarding the time Nathan the prophet came to him after David had committed adultery with Bathsheba.

1 Have mercy on me, O God,
    because of your unfailing love.
Because of your great compassion,
    blot out the stain of my sins.
2 Wash me clean from my guilt.
    Purify me from my sin.
3 For I recognize my rebellion;
    it haunts me day and night.
4 Against you, and you alone, have I sinned;
    I have done what is evil in your sight.
You will be proved right in what you say,
    and your judgment against me is just.[a]
5 For I was born a sinner—
    yes, from the moment my mother conceived me.
6 But you desire honesty from the womb,[b]
    teaching me wisdom even there.

7 Purify me from my sins,[c] and I will be clean;
    wash me, and I will be whiter than snow.
8 Oh, give me back my joy again;
    you have broken me—
    now let me rejoice.
9 Don’t keep looking at my sins.
    Remove the stain of my guilt.
10 Create in me a clean heart, O God.
    Renew a loyal spirit within me.
11 Do not banish me from your presence,
    and don’t take your Holy Spirit[d] from me.

12 Restore to me the joy of your salvation,
    and make me willing to obey you.
13 Then I will teach your ways to rebels,
    and they will return to you.
14 Forgive me for shedding blood, O God who saves;
    then I will joyfully sing of your forgiveness.
15 Unseal my lips, O Lord,
    that my mouth may praise you.

16 You do not desire a sacrifice, or I would offer one.
    You do not want a burnt offering.
17 The sacrifice you desire is a broken spirit.
    You will not reject a broken and repentant heart, O God.

Girl, You are Worth the Chase

Dear Little Girl,

Heed this reminder from a little girl just like you.

I once thought love was easy as one-two-three. Popular culture dictates that if you want a man, you gotta plan. Gone are the days when guys would do everything just to prove to you that you are worth the world to them. Today, all it takes is a simple "I luv u ;)" over chat or text for them to get your sweet "Yes!"

Sad to say, some boys today take the worth of girls for granted. They think they can have us easily or they can juggle two or more of us at the same time.

It's partly our fault.

Some girls are contented with allowing boys to go through the easy way. Of course, how can you say no when your crush finally notices you? How can you deny  love's knock on the door, even if he's not just knocking at yours? We allow guys to enter our lives so easily. We think that if we make things hard, the boy we like will go away and see another girl. And we don't want that.

But we should because girl, you are worth it.

As David wrote on Psalm 139, we are fearfully and wonderfully made. The Lord made the intricate parts of our bodies and emotions. It's enough to prove that girl, you are no ordinary piece of work. You are a wonderful masterpiece.

With that in mind, isn't it only right for a guy to pursue you the right way?

Don't be like me. I had to learn the hard way. But despite the pain, I realized that in the realm of love, the right guy shouldn't be a playboy or the first boy who says "I love you!" (Side note: fiction makes playboys look cool. THEY ARE NOT. In fact, they're digusting). The right man isn't one who just stays for the little blunders but doesn't know how to handle storms. He's not one who stays sweet now and later looks for love in others.

No.

The right man is like David-- he is a man after God's own heart. If his perspective is right, expect him to chase after you the way God intended him to.

In my opinion, the right guy won't settle for the easy path. He understands your worth because he understands his place in the hands of the Lord. He will respect you, your body, and your demands. He takes the Scripture seriously so you can be confident that he will take you seriously. The right man will not look at other women for comfort. He will prove to you that you are enough.

Girl, never think that you're not worth the chase. If a man really loves you, he will do what is right. Even if things don't seem to agree his way, he will seek the Lord and he will be ready to face whatever comes his way (e.g. strict parents, strict friends, strict dgroup leader).

Don't be afraid to raise your standards. Never stoop down to their level just to get their attention. If a guy easily gives up, then he is not worth it. But worry not, be confident that the Lord has you. Just be sure to obey His word and the people around you.

When a guy works hard for you, he will definitely value you more. Because he poured all blood, tears, and sweat, it's enough proof that he really wants to win you over.

Little girl, believe me when I say you are worth the chase. Don't be rash. Don't be like me. Wait for the Lord and he will give you a Shepherd David who lead you closer to God and not to him.

You'll see.

Love,

Another Little Girl

My Last Adieu to the Shadows

It's been a while since I expressed my sentiments on an online platform. But I'm confident you will never read this. You've been too complacent anyway, so I know you won't bother perusing through old blogs.

Not anymore.

I've cried too much these past days. They say when love closes its doors, it will feel as if the whole world is about to crash. I can honestly say it does.

How does one get back up from a mountain of lies hidden behind sweet nothings? How do you rise above unmet expectations, false hopes, and basically, just someone claiming you mean the whole world while they saw other planets?

I once fell in love with you, Shadow. The mystery intrigued my innocent heart and looking back, I think you took advantage of it. But I didn't know better and because of you, I turned away from my First Love.

The days we spent were a mix of happiness and doubts. Believe me when I say I enjoyed your presence. It reached a point where not day can go by without a glimpse of you. I just had to see you. I just had to be with you. It just had to be with you. I loved every moment spent with you.

I thought I could change you, Shadow. I thought maybe I could turn you into Light because I saw so much potential. Others said you were a false pretense but I insisted, to the point I turned a deaf ear to those who cared. I believed too much in you. He can change, I said, I know he can. 

But I was wrong and they were right.

I never thought you'd do something like that. For a period of time, I thought you were different. Sure, you were somehow just like the other shadows, but you sort of showed me that you were lighter than the others. I used to think you wouldn't hurt me--but you did. Just like the rest of them.

You broke my heart. And I learned that I cannot trust you with it.

When I evaluate the entire thing, I realize that I loved you more than you did. You can't deny that. You know I did. But you chose to lie, to remain in your old ways. What did I expect, anyway? You were a Shadow. You have no capability of changing, not even for me.

My heart shattered and it's all because of you.

But you know what, Shadow? I learned a lot:

1) I thought I was never worthy of you. But I realize it's the exact opposite: YOU ARE NOT WORTHY OF MY HEART. My First Love crafted me from His own hands. I am His masterpiece and you failed to take care of me. I showed you how I could love, you failed to level up. Why was I the only one who fought for you when you should've been fighting for me?

2) You're not as good as you think. You are weak. There, I said it. Because you couldn't face the consequences of your action. You thought things would come by easy. No, they don't Shadow. If you really want something, as you said, you keep fighting for it. Apparently, I was never one of those things.

3) You have a lot of growing up to do. Age and intellect will get you nowhere if your heart is never in the right place. You'll keep on repeating the same mistake and before you know it, you'll face ghastly consequences if you're not careful.

Dear Shadow, forgiveness is divine and it's only by grace that I can forgive. But we can't go back to that mad love. You can try to change but for now, my First Love is my first priority.

This is goodbye.